Caryl Greenberg, MSW, LSW
Sheryl Sandberg’s Option B
In case you don’t know, Sheryl Sandberg is an executive, activist and author. She has many accolades but most recently, she has been in the news because of her husband’s sudden death at age 47. In the days and weeks following his death, she felt certain she and her children would never be able to feel pure joy again. Her good friend and psychologist Adam Grant told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound.
Sheryl wrote a book I am going to tell you a little bit about because I think
it would be helpful for many of us to know we can find joy again as we enter this new year and beyond. Option A doesn’t work-there is
‘Option B’ which combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s research on finding strength in the face of adversity. It explores the stories of a
broad range of people who have overcome challenges in their lives. Here are lessons from the book: The Importance of Resilience; Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity. There are steps we can take to build resilience even before we face difficulties. The Elephant in the Room: Talking About Loss and Hardship We often have a hard time talking about adversity but staying silent can make our loved ones feel even more isolated after loss or hardship. Talking to people we love about their loss as well as being able to talk is the first step toward healing. Fighting Permanence: One way we build resilience is by fighting permanence, which is the belief that our grief or pain will last forever. Taking steps to remind ourselves that even the most painful feelings won’t always be so intense can help us find the strength to heal. Self-Confidence & Self-Compassion When you treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d show a friend, that’s self-compassion. When you believe in your abilities, that’s self-confidence. We can practice self-compassion and develop our self-confidence on a daily basis to build resilience. Finding Meaning after loss or trauma, we all hope to bounce back. Some of us manage to bounce forward. Learn how helping others gives our suffering meaning, allowing us to grow from the most difficult experiences of our lives. Taking Back Joy The guilt we feel after loss or trauma can prevent us from enjoying the things we love. But when we give ourselves permission to do what we love, we allow ourselves to reclaim joy in our lives. Please call me if interested in a Bereavement Group, which will begin in the Spring and will incorporate some of the concepts above and more.
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What's on Your Mind
"What's On Your Mind" meets on Fridays at 2:15 p.m. to discuss current events and information that interests you. We welcome new members. You can drop in anytime. Call Caryl for more information.
Monthly Bereavement Support Group
Ongoing support group which meets the first Monday of every month at 11:45. Participants offer mutual support to each other as we share our struggles and grief in a safe non-judgmental venue.
The Senior Center also offers a six week Bereavement Support Group when there has been a more recent loss of a significant other. Please call Caryl for more information.
A weekly group using literature as a conduit for discussion. Participants share thoughts and feelings about what they have read and relate it ‘if applicable’ to their life experience. We meet every Thursday (except the first Thursday of the month) at 10:30 am. Please call Caryl for more information.
VISION LOSS SUPPORT GROUP
Meets the first Friday of every month at 10:30 a.m. in the conference room. This is an opportunity to meet new people, share information and benefit from mutual support.
Veterans age 55 + meet monthly to share stories and strive to re-create the camaraderie that is experienced when sharing a common bond. This group meets monthly on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 10:45 a.m.
Social Work Services
As more individuals are choosing to ‘age in place’, the senior center offers ‘home visits’ by the Social Worker to the HOMEBOUND elderly. We can provide limited case management services, emotional support and counseling. Many issues include loss, care giving concerns and tensions, coping with health problems, relationship issues, independence, depression, substance abuse, isolation and more. The Social Worker also sees individuals and couples on site. Please contact Caryl Greenberg for further information.
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